Navigating the Waves of Grief

John van der Linde (Psychological Counsellor) - The recent passing of our beloved president has cast a shadow over the nation, reminding us of the fragility

of life and the shared humanity that binds us together in times of grief. As a psychological counsellor and fellow Namibian, I extend my sincerest condolences to every soul touched by this sorrow.

Understanding Grief in Our Culture

Grief is a journey as vast as the Namib Desert and unpredictable as the rains that bless our soil. It is a

profoundly personal experience and a path we walk together as a community. In our diverse nation,

with its rich tapestry of cultures, each ethnic group has its traditions and expressions of mourning. Yet,

amid these differences, we find common ground in the universal language of loss and the need for

comfort.

The Process of Mourning

As the Ovambo might say, "Ondjira owala," reflecting on the long road ahead, or as the Herero might

express, "Omuzauro wokumwe," acknowledging the weight of grief, we know that mourning takes

time and patience. With their deep connection to the land, the Khoisan might find solace in the

whispers of nature. At the same time, the Damara and Nama might seek strength in the power of

community and song.

Grieving is not a linear process; it ebbs and flows like the tides of the Atlantic that caress our western

shores. We may find ourselves bargaining as if we could negotiate with the Etosha Pan for one more

glimpse of our lost leader or feeling the anger that ignites the Caprivi Strip under the fierce sun. But

eventually, with support and time, we reach a place of acceptance where the pain softens, and we can

cherish the memories with a bittersweet smile.

Finding Support in Namibia:

In this time of national mourning, you are not alone. Throughout the cities, from Windhoek to

Swakopmund, and the rural expanses that stretch between, support is available for those who seek it.

Local churches, mosques, and temples often provide spiritual guidance and a community of support.

In addition, numerous organizations and counselling services across the country offer a listening ear

and a helping hand, including:

- The Psychological Association of Namibia (PAN), which can connect individuals with professional

counsellors and resources tailored to their needs.

- Lifeline/Childline Namibia offers confidential counselling for anyone in emotional distress, reachable

via their toll-free helpline.

Community centres and local NGOs often host support groups and healing circles where people can

share their experiences and feelings in a safe space.

Staying Connected

In our sorrow, let us remember the spirit of "Ubuntu," the profound African philosophy that

emphasizes our interconnectedness. "I am because we are," and it is in this spirit that we shall

overcome our collective grief. Reach out to family members, friends, and neighbours. Remember that

a simple gesture, a warm meal, or a shared memory can be a beacon of hope in these trying times.

Conclusion

As the nation of Namibia mourns the loss of a leader, let us unite in unity and compassion. Our shared

grief is a testament to the love and respect we held for our president, and it is in this love that we find

the strength to move forward.

Our cultural diversity is our greatest strength in times of sorrow. Whether we express our grief through

the Himba's sacred rituals, the Owambo's olufuko festival, or the San's healing dances, we must honour

our traditions while embracing support from modern resources.

As we navigate the waves of grief, let us take comfort in the knowledge that our departed president's

legacy lives on through every one of us. May we embody the ideals they stood for, the unity they

fostered, and their vision for our beautiful country.

Let us also remember the power of our natural surroundings in healing our wounded hearts. The awe-

inspiring dunes of Sossusvlei, the tranquil waters of the Okavango, and the majestic Fish River Canyon

remind us of the enduring beauty of our land and the resilience that lies within us.

And, as we look to the skies at night, blanketed by the stars that our ancestors navigated by, let us find

solace in the thought that those we have lost continue to guide us from the heavens.

In Closing

Grief may temporarily dim the light of our spirit, but it will never extinguish the warmth of our

Namibian community. To those who find themselves in the depths of sorrow, remember that you are

surrounded by a nation of hearts beating in sympathy. We will honour our memories, support one

another, and emerge from this mourning period with renewed strength and unity.

For those seeking immediate support, please call Lifeline/Childline Namibia at 116 (toll-free from any

network) or the Ministry of Health and Social Services for guidance on accessing mental health

services.

As we come together in the spirit of Harambee, let us unite as one nation and one people. Together,

we possess a collective strength that will help us celebrate life and mourn the passing of a leader who

has significantly impacted our history. As we journey through this time of grief, may we draw closer

and form bonds that will sustain us now and in the future. May we all find peace and healing in the days ahead.

STATS

How you can use the 3 C's to heal:

*Choose - It's common to feel obligated to attend some events, such as an Easter celebration or a family holiday dinner. ...

*Connect - Since every individual has their way of dealing with grief, some people may isolate themselves from the world during such times.

*Communicate

Did you know?

Intense

Complicated grief is characterized by intense grief that lasts longer than would be normally expected and that impairs daily functioning.